The FOSK Diaries..!! #1

Everyone would be keen to know, What is This FOSK? Don't worry i will tell you all about it in coming para's. everyone in life has his ambitions, dreams. We all, i.e., FOSK members, all had a dream of knowing somebody that would make our voices heard. We will meet someone, who would write something about the things that we think in our mind whether it's personal or professional. For us, that someone was a beautiful young lady, that can melt anyone's heart by her smile & can make you her fan with her simplicity. Now, i should tell you that lady is, Mrs. Sonal Kalra, the Editor of HT City & an Author. This is the first glimpse of her that you get. But, the second you meet her, it's all changed, because, when you meet her, she wouldn't treat you like a "FAN", she would treat you like a "FRIEND". So, FOSK stands for "Fans Of Sonal Kalra". But, we people take it as "Friends Of Sonal Kalra".

I've been in this for now 2 years almost, made some new friends & we all are like a FAMILY. Their is a ritual that we follow every year to do a FOSK Picnic, in which we all meet, who can come & join us for a day of wholesome entertainment & fun. We all meet, various times in a year, but this is the time when all of us meet at the same time. This ritual started in 2011, when the 1st FOSK Picnic held at Hauz Khas Village, New Delhi. At, that time i was not a part of it, as i didn't knew about this page & Sonal Mam. In March 2012, i joined this page & the rest is history. Sometimes in a group like this you feel as an "Outcast" but, No, in this group we all are equal, because we all know that "WE ALL ARE THE SAME" i.e., Insanely, Crazily Awesome People. Then, the day came when 2nd FOSK Picnic's date was finalized & that was the first time i was going to meet the whole of the "STAR CAST" of FOSK, was nervous & super-excited, to meet new people & most of all, Sonal Mam, it was like a "Dear Diary Moment" for me..  :P

I didn't knew how the picnic is conducted, so i go to FOSK page & i see posts coming from all FOSK members, to give attendance who all are coming, who will bring what, finalize the date, time & venue. It all got me toooooooooooooo excited. All the members, commenting that i'll bring this & i'll bring that, kept me wondering that i should also get something for all of them as this is my first time & it should be something special. Then, the day came & i still know the date, it was "6th October, 2012", when the picnic held. New faces everywhere, only few people i know. But, at th first instance i knew, they all are so nice people, the way they met me & they had conversations with me. I enjoyed every bit of it & we all enjoyed every second of it. But, the wait was for to Sonal Mam, to arrive. At, first you would think, will she really come, as the Editor-in Chief of HT City, they have to work continuously to bring up the news & also a person at this post, has really no time to go for a picnic on a working day. She came & as she spent time with all of us as it was first time for me & 2nd time for all of them, i was really surprised to see how grounded & awesome lady she is. Talking to all of us & spending a fun time of 2 hours with us. The best thing about picnic is "FOOD", the annapurna of our family, "Ritu Mam", always brings delicious food for all of us.Now, this is the story of the past, now i'll tell you about the present.

In recent times, FOSK has got a little low, as everyone gets busy in life, with work, family things. But, touch wood, we all have that intensity to be in touch with almost everyone, if not daily, but after every 1-2 days. This, the picnic was a little difficult to organize as many people were in-active from the page. But, we all thought, that now we should do this, we asked Sonal Mam, & we got a Green signal for picnic, now all we had to do is to write a post & invite people for it. At first, the intensity of the people was low. But later, all the people came out & got in this thing. Again, we all were seeing posts of who will bring what, who will be the official camera-man/woman of that day. So, at "28th December, 2013" we all gathered at "Lodhi Garden" to celebrate FOSK Picninc, as i call it "FOSK Picnic : Season 3". This time people were a li'l less, but the fun was still at its peak. We all were rally excited as we all will meet each other after a very long time. And, everybody turned up & some new faces even came & some faces that didn't came were badly missed. The cake was cut & we began singing, "Happy FOSK day to Us, Happy FOSK day to us". It was so delightful to see, all the happy people with a broad smile on their faces, laughing continuously as we talk to each other. But, the best thing that we all do is "Clicking Photographs" & mind it, lots of them. Different poses, Different places. We all wait for this day to come & we all say, that we don't want to go home. But, all things come to an end. This day, too. But, i just wish & i know, that this ritual of having "FOSK Picninc" every year, remains intact & one day we'll have "50th Annual FOSK Picnic".

They are all the most awesomest people in this world..!!

All the members are (Sorry, would have to write full names here) -

The Super Women's -

Sonal Kalra, Ritu Babbar, Nicky Kulwant, Isha Khullar, Ashu Gupta, Pooja Mishra, Ashna Banga, Ridhima Kapoor, Shalini Kaushik, Shalini Chaurasia, Priyanka Kapoor, Gauri Gupta, Apurva Uniyal, Gagneesh Kaur, Voronkova Tatyana, Prabhleen Chopra, Shakti Malhotra, Priyaa Arora, Isha Mittal, Rinkie Saini, Shivani Atri, Vineeta Sharma.


The Dudes - 

Jatin Jamwal, Rexie, Ravi Kesarwani, Tanveer Nishat, Mohit Bhandari, Jigyesh Mendiratta, Amit Mishra, Usama Suleiman, Dipanshu Kaushik, Aman Budhiraja, Vinay Gupta, Vivek Anand, Rahul Roy, Aman Sharma, Gaurav Mishra, Himanshu, Manoj Kushwaha, Naveen Arora, Rachit Gupta, Sudhakar Chaurasia, Varun Vig & last but not the least, Aayush Sharma (Me).


Fosk is just incomplete with out even 1 of you & im sorry, i had to write full names instead of Bhaiya, Di & Sir, after them. I just wish all the very best to all of you & may you get all the happiness of this world. EVERY FOSK MEMBER WHO READS IT, SHOULD COMMENT HERE..!!  :D

THANKYOU SO MUCH, SONAL MAM..!! FOR BRINGING US, SO CLOSE TO EACH OTHER..!! :)  :D

What Have We Learned In This 1 Year??, Nothing!!

It's been a year that "Nirbhaya's Rape Case" happened, the brave girl who fought for her life for a hideous & brutal crime committed by our so called "Traditional" Society's jerks. It's been a year of the outrage, the people showed on this system of our country. People say, that "Our laws are not appropriate, that can provide tough punishment to these criminals or Police, doesn't do their work properly", to an extent it is Correct..!! That, If there would be laws that are strict & it would bring some fear in the minds of these types of criminals. But, I think that is not the whole story..!! Well, i'll come to this point ahead in this post.

Today, im not gonna talk about, how to deal with this & that, today i'm gonna talk about what "WE" got & learned after the incident. Do we really feel, the people of "INDIA" has learned something, after this?. It's like, Delhi/NCR region has become "Bermuda Triangle" for getting justice, if some crime has happened, Justice is just impossible for you to find. But, how can we find justice when the "POLICE" are also not on the people's side, i heard it somewhere, At that time, "TEHELKA" did a sting operation in various police stations in NCR region, a policemen in Noida, when asked why such things happen?, He said, "You see, Girls wear short clothes, to which it exhilerates & attracts people & their mind says that, "Just Do It" or like he said in hindi, "Ki Kardo Bas". Arre kya yeh koi, Raghu-Rajiv ke "Roadies" ka task hai ki kardo bass. This is the state of our Police & when we cannot say anything about laws & all, we blame it on the "West" or "Westernization" . We hear all the people saying, "We are relying & following the "WEST" too much, we are forgetting our traditions & culture. I just feel, We, Indians, know everything but still trying to be unknown to such things. What, Western culture we are talking about, We, Indians, gave the world a book on "Love & Sex" nd guys, if you are saying you don't know about, you are fooling yourselves, we taught the world how to make love, not just love, passionate love. So think that, "When this western world was busy in giving us beneficiary things like , "Telephone", "Light Bulb", Electricity" & even more, we were busy in giving the various permetations & combinations of human body. Did children were born, through some natural process like "Photosynthesis" or "Tyndall Effect" in India.

We also talk with girls, we see them too. but, it all depends upon the "mentality" of the people. A guy with a clean mentality will see a girl, but would never think to do anything against her. He will just say that she is "Beautiful" & i feel, all the beautiful things & people, they beauty of them should be appreciated. But, a guy with sick mentality would do anything to please himself or to get what he needs & this the main thing "Mentality" of the people. that was the thing i was talking about in the 1st paragraph. Strict laws & Police Protection, will solve the problem to only a mere extent to a level, but nothing cannot be done until people don't change their mentalities. You can provide police on the outside or we can know about such crimes which gets covered by the media. But, what anyone can do of such crimes being committed behind the closed doors, you cannot appoint police offices inside the houses of the people. Let me give an example & some of it, may not like this but it's the truth, "A small child living in a house where the male members of the family dominates the female members of the family, doing all the hideous things & thinking that if he also does like this, the girl he is going to get married with will also be, below her & not say anything." & THIS IS THE TRUTH..!!

It's been a year after that brutal crime was committed, people went out to the roads with slogans, with anger & i was also one of them, got bashed, bruised, everything, but didn't even bothered to held back as it's not just for that 1 girl, it was for all of us. Our sisters, Our Friends, Our Mothers & All Of Us. But, still these crimes are committed, just because of the "perverted" minds of the people & most of them are "illiterates". I don't know, when the people, who wear such modern clothes, will change their sick-old mentalities & would kill their girl-child, even before when they are born. They don't understand that they were also born through a  
lady & if that time she would have taken the decision to kill you, you would have not been able to see this world. I still feel angry, when someone says "Girls should wear proper clothes" or "They should not go out after 8pm", if that's the case, "Dress up a lady politician in same clothes & let her wander through the streets at mid-night, no one will dare to touch her, u know why, No, not because they are ugly, but because then, there will be "consequences".

At, last i would like say, "Girls", "Ladies", you have all the rights to do anything you like to do, anything you want to wear, anywhere you want to go. They have their brains, when to say "No" & when to say "Yes" for something, so anyone should not tell them to do or what not to do. We feel so happy to see, "India" getting forward, but time to time, we show that we still are in the backside, when such brutal crimes are committed.

WE HAVEN'T LEARNED ANYTHING..!!

Got Negative Feelings..?? Spit It Out..!!

In Life, sometimes it just too easy to think that no one cares about you or having such bad-negative feelings, doubting that no one wants to hear to you, even when you are listening to everyone & taking time from your schedule to be with them or talk with them. Even, the most popular & famous people become insecure that, "Are People Close to Them, Really Care About Them?" Feeling unwanted & unnoticed, is a part of human condition, if you've got such feelings or you ever had such feelings, proves that you are a human with feelings & not a robot. But, What's really important to learn in such experiences, is realizing that everybody has their moments of doubt in their lives & when such things happen, you must learn to cherish yourself & your moments & should challenge the feelings that no body cares.

Firstly, You should pin-point such things or moments that made you feel such way. There can be many reasons for which, you felt left out, alone or ignored. Most of the reasons that come out in such moments are usually in our head. Some other reasons, may come from the things that has happened to you in recent times, like someone you trusted so much has broken that trust of yours or saying something about you on your back. Bit, if you can pin-point the reason for the feeling of getting alone or ignored, it would help you i understanding what really is going on. You don't have to rush your analysis of which things or moments has brought you these kinds of feelings & this is probably the most important thing to do, when you are feeling isolated, by pin-pointing such issues you can isolate them & prevent it from yourself to harm your imagination. But yes, "Some People Do Behave Like Jerks". It's really easy & human mind-set to think that everyone is so mean & doesn't care about anybody, but it's not TRUE..!!

Secondly, Help yourself to get over such Negative Feelings, Let It Go Out, Loud..!! Cry..!! It's okay, more than okay to Cry, to scream, pushing it out from your mind. A good cry or screaming it out where no body can hear you are some ways to let out your frustrations & sadness of your mind. Every person, has their own style of letting it out, some people take the course of MUSIC to get it out, some people just go out for a walk etc & if you're embarrassed that how you let go ( you don't have to feel embarrassed), go somewhere where it's just you, people cannot see you, hear you or notice you. But, just don't let your tears hold in, this makes the case even worse. It's okay, to scream & shout, when you're Angry..!! & you know, what you should be. Sometimes, its just not like you just have to. If you're upset it's important to let it out, in a manner, which you like.

Finally, the most important part is to finding out what matters to you & hanging onto it. Think of all the good things in life, how beautiful the day is or cherishing a moment when you felt special. Think of the times, when you were with someone & you smiled & laughed & had a good time, think of a time when you accomplished something you really wanted to do which made you the "Happiest" guy in this world at that moment. In the end, it doesn't matter what others feel about you, it's about you & it will matter, what you think of yourself, What you had done to your life.

In The End, When you've calmed down, now the real task comes, think again that what's been upsetting you. Just Ask yourself, "Was it the day that made your situation worse?", "Was it completely unexpected or has been going on for a while?", "Is it something that you can get away from?" Answer yourself honestly & 100%, you'll find out what has been bothering you. Now, you have to start fixing it.

The AAPPU Diaries..!! - #1

Well, you all must be thinking, what is this AAPPU?, I should tell you that it's a group of my friends & this group is made up of all of us, first name initials. We all are group of well-mannered kids, ohh wait-wait, that's just rubbish, we all are fun-loving, awesomely crazy people & yess, in real we are well-mannered. So, it all started with a meeting which took us to a level of warmness & love we have for each other, today. The four people of whom i'm talking about are: A, Adultni, Pr & Us. These are not their real names, but, still they'll know about this. So, it all started 9 months back, well, i knew "A" & "Us", but not that profoundly. So, for "Us" birthday, we get together to celebrate & i said, Sure, i'll be there & i know, that decision of coming that day is "One Of The Best Decisions Of My Life".

We all were meeting for the first time, like this, that it's gonna be only us. I knew, 3 of them but not much & the comfort level with them was not too good & the fourth one was absolute stranger, never heard name of that person. So, A & Pr, were waiting for "Adultni" & "Me" to arrive before "Us" comes to the scene. I arrived first & we all met & talked, the momentum was building. So, we are now waiting for someone, who i haven't seen before, so they tell me that she is coming for the first time in Delhi & coming in the metro & i thought, "First Time In Delhi & In a Metro", Woww, She's not gonna like that "bheed-bhaad". A & Pr, said that she's gonna wear blue & we have to look for her. So, we are standing above the stairs outside the metro station, & i'm looking on every girl that is coming in blue & i was feeling like a stalker & girls giving me weird looks, then i realise, of course they're gonna give me looks. But, somehow, i knew that she was not the girl we are looking for. Then , appeared a girl, in a blue top & i just said to them, that is she the one? & yess, she was the one. As i met, my "Adultni", i got to know that she is an introvert, doesn't like too much of people around her, just few people, her loved ones. She has her unique sense of liking things & is a child from within. Then, we all 4 of us began to roam into the area of Connaught Place, Waiting for "Us" to arrive & he is 2 hours late. -_-

Still waiting for him & waiting to give him a surprise that "Someone" has come to meet him, for the very first time. We are still, waitingg for him, eating "Oreo" biscuits on the roadside. After, 2 hours, he finally comes & A & Pr, says that go a little further & we'll introduce as a surprise for him, so me & Adultni, acting like we are not here for him & he met both of them, A & Pr. Then, A comes to me & say, "Up" & i stand up & meet him, with a big smile on my & his face, too. then, came the real moment to introduce the "Adultni" as she comes inront of "Us", he looked stunned, but with no expressions & we all felt like, "Woowwwwwww", no expressions at all. "Us" bhaiya, Kaise kare lete ho na aap, yeh!!  :P  But, we all knew the happiness & joy he was having inside of his heart, to see her & all of us on his special day. So, we decided to sit somehwhere, open the presents we have for him, eat something & talk out loud & enjoy..!! so, we finally sit & we give presents to him & i had nothing to give to him because, i was a surprise for him, so SURPRISE!! That was the gift from me, i.e., myself.  We all begin to like the company of each other, talking & laughing & smiling continuously, it was really turning into a day of fun, which me, in real never expected. Now, i must tell, what i got from that meeting & that day.


    ( From Left to Right :( "Pr", "Us" bhaiya, "A" & "Adultni") Me, Behind The Lens)

"A", a loving elder sister, who is not just beautiful from the outside but the most beautiful girl in the world deep down inside. Well, before that day, i thought she was like a typical & very intelligent girl with intelligent talks & i was afraid, that what should i talk to her as i cannot, i mean never-ever can talk in a manner in which she writes or she thinks, but when i met & talked to her & i found out that she is just the opposite, a fun-loving, a pakki-punjaban & filled with intelligence & has the power of writing to make her love, even more. You are one of the best things ever happened to me, in my life. YOU ARE SPECIAL!!

"Adultni", I just love this names of yours, being the youngest of our group, you have all the traits of a adultni, in a good way. You are a practical girl & doesn't take a decision just based on a thing you have heard. Everything, that i know about you, make me love & respect you more & more. You are my choti si cute si "Atta Bori" Behen.. I MISS YOU..!! Come waapis, Jaldi se..!!

"Pr", Although we talk a little less, but whenever we meet it's like 2 old friends are meeting. A Punjabi by heart, you are always an aweosme company to hang-out & talk. Whether, we talk less but my love & respect will always be at peak. And yess, sometime we really should do a punjabi dance.  :D  :P

"Us", Ab what can i say about him, a pure hearted guy, who is simple with a loving nature. I really, have to say that our bonding is getting stronger & stronger, every time we meet. I promise you, we will always be great friends like this. Bass, thoda zyada bola karo yaar..  :P  :P

Well, this was the first day when we met for the first time & now we are "AAPPU" & we will always remain like this & every time we will meet, it's gonna be a fun-ride always. LOVE YOU, GUYS..!! YOU ARE IMPORTANT IN MY LIFE!!